You've asked in the past how we've made it so far not being the subjects of grudges and such.
C & I have talked about some.
We let things go.
We may remember, we may not forgive.
But we let it go.
We stop telling folks the story. We stop letting it eat at us.
True we avoid the folks we have issues with, but we don't make a point of it.
If the person deliberately hurt us, we don't give them the satisfaction of driving us away from social places or circles, nor do we let them see us have any pain. We simply wander off or ignore them if they enter our extended personal space. (ie join a group conversation at a party).
If they unintentionally hurt us, but don't believe they did anything wrong. Then they are not worth the effort of knowing anyway, so we just let them fade from our world view.
Take the high road, don't take vengeance, don't hold a grudge, don't wast the emotional energy. You've got better things to do with it then hold on to hate or even just a major dis-like.
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Date: 2003-02-08 05:09 pm (UTC)C & I have talked about some.
We let things go.
We may remember, we may not forgive.
But we let it go.
We stop telling folks the story.
We stop letting it eat at us.
True we avoid the folks we have issues with, but we don't make a point of it.
If the person deliberately hurt us, we don't give them the satisfaction of driving us away from social places or circles, nor do we let them see us have any pain. We simply wander off or ignore them if they enter our extended personal space. (ie join a group conversation at a party).
If they unintentionally hurt us, but don't believe they did anything wrong. Then they are not worth the effort of knowing anyway, so we just let them fade from our world view.
Take the high road, don't take vengeance, don't hold a grudge, don't wast the emotional energy. You've got better things to do with it then hold on to hate or even just a major dis-like.