Shalom, Davka

[figmo]

I just got e-mail telling me a long-time friend of mine who I hadn't heard from in a while committed suicide last Sunday.

I can't say I knew Marc de Groot as well as I'd have liked to. I knew he was hurting inside, but I was under the -- obviously -- misunderstanding he was dealing with his inner daemons. He'd had a drinking problem when I first met him, but eventually he licked that, and there was much celebration. He started going by "Davka" as part of emerging from his old self.

I watched from a distance as Marc got kind of pushed of a social circle I've been a part of for many years. He wasn't kicked out, per se, but folks who only knew the "old Marc" were wont to accept the man who'd emerged from behind the bottle.

The last time I spoke with him was in a very long phone conversation. He was still living in San Francisco and was about to leave the area, but he asked if I'd like to chat again. I said, "Sure," but somehow that next chat never happened. Now it never will.

For those of you who knew him, a memorial service is being held this Sunday at 1pm at Temple Beth Hillel in Richmond, followed by burial across the street at Rolling Hills Cemetary.

Comments

[tsjafo.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[randwolf.livejournal.com]

Sympathies.

[mittelbar.livejournal.com]

Well, hell.

I'm sorry to hear about that.

[slfisher.livejournal.com]

Holy shit. I hadn't heard from Marc in years. Wow.

Thank you for letting me know.

[hrrunka]

*sigh* An old friend of mine committed suicide a few months back. I'd last spoken to him just a couple of weeks before, and I'd not picked up the slightest hint that he wasn't coping with life. It seems he'd even hidden most of it from his wife...

I guess, sometimes, we're just not equipped to understand...

*HUG*

[poltr1]

*sigh* I had three friends commit suicide. I still kick myself, asking, "Was there more I could have done to reach out to them?" And the answer is "No". I could throw out a lifeline, but if they choose not to grab it, there's nothing more I could do for them.

*hugs*

RIP Davka

[(Anonymous)]

I too was a best friend of Davka..he was more loved then he realized. I spoke with him at least 3 times week for the last 5 years...I deeply miss him. I was looking online to see if anyone else had noted his passing and am glad to see that there are people out here talking, remembering and mourning the loss of a very special person
peace Steve
steve@liquidlights.com